Reach for the moon and Touch the star

Were you ever told to set up a dream that is so high that you probably won't reach? And were you told that it's okay to not be able to reach it because that's what the dream is about? I have heard that so many times and I have convinced myself that it's true for so long. However, is that really true?

Sometimes I think having such a belief makes me a smaller person, less brave at least. You almost provide yourself an excuse to not try your absolutely best. You then feel less guilty as you have already come up with an excuse to explain your failure. (NOT saying not achieving your dream is failure)  What is your dream? How big should we dream of?

Reach for the Moon and touch the Star.

Is it a belief pushing us to achieve higher? Or is it an excuse to comfort ourselves? What do you think?

Internet and relationship

I know...quite a cliche topic. But I couldn't help sharing my thoughts on this popular subject.

 Internet has become an unbreakable part in our lives. I just CANNOT imagine myself without it anymore. Sort of pathetic actually. What happened to going to the libraries and read every single book for an answer? No, GOOGLE! What happened to a hand-written letter and buying stamps? No, emails/ fb messages!

No judgments here guys. And of course not everyone is like that, but I'm definitely guilty.

I sometimes wonder if this whole internet thing is positive or negative as a whole. Obviously, it's more convenient and easy to connect and share with people around the world. But sometimes we bury ourselves  in this online world so deep that we forget the real one. We seldom interact with others face to face anymore. For god sake, we text our roommates even we are in the same room. It's funny and convenient in a way. But it is always scary at the same time. It feels so much easier to express ourselves on internet and sometimes it feels even intimidating to talk face to face.

Crazy...but there's no going back probably. What do you think?

Taboo

Hello my friends! Today I want to share something a bit more personal. In every relationship, I believe there is at least one taboo subject, maybe an ex-boyfriend who ended up in jail, or a secret lover he hid away. When they talk about the subject, they fight, they argue and they cry. Eventually, they learn to avoid the subject and pretend to forget about it.

Mine is a question.

At first, I asked, "When're you coming back?"
He replied, "Soon"
Then I asked again, "When're you coming back?"
He replied again,"Soon".

The truth is we both know that he's not coming back anytime soon. Everytime I asked, he tried to be a good boyfriend and comforted me with "Soon". As time goes, that's just not going to cut it. I pressure you with a specific time frame and you have no answer. The more I ask, the more silence I get.

It is heartbreaking.

How long do I need to accept that it is a taboo question I should not ask again? After all, the sooner I accept it, the happier person I can become.

Do you have any taboo subject in your relationship? Feel free to tell our little tree hole.

Home Decor

Hello my friends! It has been awhile I know. But lately I have been busying to move. You know, finding moving companies, packing stuffs, buying furnitures......all very hectic. That makes me think of many youtubers moving videos a lot lately.

In their videos, they seem to have so much fun moving and decorating. I'm excited to pick a new bed and desk and so as well. But it's difficult at the same time. Obviously I have to pick things within a set budget. So sometimes I can't get the number one thing that I want. Bummer. Also, I guess flats in Hong Kong are generally way smaller than those in the UK or the States. So we don't actually have that much space to decorate. The priority on my mind is definitely functionality, which is less exciting obviously.

I've also noticed that many beauty gurus like to get the Ikea Alex drawer, pretty paintings and TONS of cushions. And even some of them are only renting the place for a year, they are willing to spend so much effort on painting the wall, decorating the kitchen...Honestly, those are all way too fancy for what I can afford. I would love to do that, don't get me wrong. But I don't know, I'm just more practical (or less wealthy I guess). Sometimes, when I see how they buy different home stuff in their haul videos, I can't stop but wonder where those things are going. Maybe it's just me moving to a small flat or me not being that creative, but I sometimes think those decors are so unreal. It's almost like seeing what's supposed to be in a model home appear in an actual home. I'm just jealous. I guess that gives me motivation to work harder!

Anyway, let's work hard to achieve high together!

Dependence

Hello my friend!

It has been so long since my first post. I had several drafts on hand but  I just didn't post them. Weird, right?

Today I have some thoughts on relationships. When you're with someone, it's natural to feel dependent on him/her. However, when it's the point that is overly dependent?

I sometimes find myself to be so devoted in a relationship that I start to lose myself. All my emotion and action depend on the other half. When I get to see him, it makes my day. When he misses my call, I get worried. Suddenly I just feel so fragile and weak. I reckon letting myself fall too much makes me vulnerable. But maybe it's because of the long-distance? Long-distance relationship is a whole other topic though. I'll save it for later.

But afterall, that's why relationship is just so powerful. It brings you enormous love but it can slso be heart breaking. We have to put ourselves out there. Fall hard. We can only hope we will find the balance eventually. Good luck to me and to you all.

My first blog ever!

Hello there! Today is a big day for me as I suddenly have this ridiculous courage to start my own blog. The 9th of May, not a particular special day, but it will be from now.

I'm going through a hard time in my life. Starting a blog and adding it to my mind seems like a irrational act. However, I just feel right to do it. Consider it a gift to myself. I just need a way out, a new angle to brighten my day. I've heard from several  that one of the best way to avoid negativity is to connect with people. Then I thought, what's a better way to connect with people than starting a blog?

As you see, I name the blog as "Our Little Tree Hole". I just want it to be a platform for me to share my thoughts, feelings and maybe a bit of my life. And hopefully, you will feel comfortable to share yours here as well. We all have secrets we are not ready to share with people who are close to us. I certainly would rather talk to strangers about my thoughts sometimes. This is what Our Little Tree Hole is about.

I don't know how this is going to play out. Maybe it will only become an online diary for me. But hopefully it can be yours too.